Ruby,
The dream you described, set in an abandoned tower, seems to reflect a deep sense of seeking safety and refuge, possibly from the overwhelming challenges you've faced in life. Creating a home in such a desolate place suggests a desire for control and making the best out of a situation where you might feel isolated or abandoned. The lightning strike without pain could symbolize a transformative experience in your life—perhaps a sudden insight or change that, while potentially destructive, does not harm you, indicating resilience and protection amidst chaos.
In the second part of your dream, the presence of aliens and UFOs introduces elements of the unknown and a potential threat, but also the extraordinary. Your actions to turn off the lights and avoid eye contact seem to be strategic moves for survival, echoing perhaps a need to protect yourself and your loved ones from external threats. The emphasis on family and leading them to safety by taking the stairs rather than the elevator suggests a strong instinct to guide and help those you care about through difficult times, choosing a more secure though challenging path.
Considering the significant life event you encountered, the themes of hiding and evasion present in both dreams might be connected to your feelings about that traumatic experience. The need to find a safe place, away from invaders or aliens, could reflect a subconscious need to protect yourself and heal from past wounds. The tower being struck by lightning, yet causing no pain, might hint at your subconscious mind processing these events, recognizing that you have been through a storm but are now ready to move on without the pain that once was.
These dreams appear to be an expression of your inner strength and survival instincts. Despite the adversities and the need to seek refuge, you exhibit a clear determination to create a sense of home, security, and to lead yourself and others to safety. Your actions in the dream show a protective nature and a focus on familial bonds, which may be your subconscious reinforcing the importance of these connections in your waking life.
Remember, Ruby, dreams can often be a mirror reflecting our deepest feelings and experiences. In your case, your dreams seem to be a testament to your resilience and the protective instincts you have not only for yourself but for those you care about.