Jane,
The dream you had, where you found yourself as the spouse of someone you strongly dislike, Trump, could be reflecting inner conflict regarding your identity and being associated with values or aspects you do not align with. The distress over his actions in the dream and your role in comforting him might symbolize a part of you that is seeking to reconcile or cope with uncomfortable or conflicting aspects of your life or personality.
Your unease at the party, especially in an area connected to your previous work environment, and the fear of being 'outed' likely connects to past experiences of feeling out of place or the fear of being judged for parts of your identity that you had to keep hidden or felt were not accepted. This might mirror feelings from when you lost your job—a time when you likely felt exposed and vulnerable in a community you once felt part of.
Looking at your previous dreams, the theme of identity and recognition appears to recur. Like the dream where you were with a friend in NYC, feeling jealousy, and the difficulty of finding your place (or shoes) among others. The dream with your old boss also involved a theme of pretense and hidden dissent, which resonates with the recent dream's theme of having to play a role that does not fit comfortably with who you truly are.
Your life events show a rich tapestry of accomplishments, challenges, and transitions, like opening the Performing Arts Center, experiencing the loss of a friend, and undergoing major changes in your family life. These events can deeply influence your subconscious, leading to dreams where themes of identity, transformation, and a need for authenticity are prominent.
In all, your dream seems to be a patchwork of feelings related to personal integrity, past professional experiences, and the fear of misrepresentation or exposure. It's a reflection of the complex journey you've had and the various roles you've played in life—some chosen, some thrust upon you. Remember, the essence of who you are often shines through these dream narratives, offering you insights into your deepest thoughts and emotions.