Joanne, your dream intricately weaves together various aspects of your emotional landscape, highlighting the complexities of your relationships and internal conflicts. The holiday setting with your husband and the three women, especially his ex-wife, represents an intrusion into your personal and marital space. This scenario likely reflects your feelings of vulnerability and the challenges you face in maintaining boundaries within your relationship. The flirtatious interactions between your husband and the women underscore your insecurities and fears of betrayal, which are exacerbated by his apparent enjoyment of their company and refusal to consider your discomfort.
The women's judgment of you as jealous speaks to your internal struggle with trust and self-worth. This part of the dream may mirror your anxieties about how others perceive you and your relationship with your husband. Your negative comments about the women being 'unattractive' and 'trashy' could be a defense mechanism, a way to bolster your self-esteem in the face of perceived threats to your marriage.
Transitioning to the familiar yet strained setting near your mum's house, the new houses being built during Christmas time symbolize potential for new beginnings and hope for reconciliation. However, the out-of-control petrol lorry and ensuing fire introduce an element of chaos and danger, reflecting the turmoil in your relationship with your mother. The presence of your son, even if only felt, emphasizes your protective instincts and the responsibilities you carry as a mother amidst these familial conflicts.
The urgency to escape the impending explosion, juxtaposed with others' inaction, highlights your sense of isolation and the pressing need to resolve issues that seem to be ignored by those around you. This dream encapsulates your feelings of being unheard and undervalued, both in your marriage and in your relationship with your mother, urging you to confront and address these underlying tensions in your waking life.