Cindy, your dream presents a stark juxtaposition between the initial allure of romance and the subsequent violation of trust and safety. The enticing image of being on a date with a handsome, charming man can often symbolize a yearning for connection, intimacy, and the excitement that relationships can bring. However, the sudden turn where this figure becomes a source of fear and aggression reveals deeper layers of anxiety and unresolved feelings surrounding relationships, especially considering your history of relationship difficulties and trauma. This shift from charm to violence may reflect an internal struggle with vulnerability, and perhaps a fear that intimacy could lead to harm or betrayal.
The act of having your clothes ripped off is a powerful symbol of loss of agency and control. Clothing often represents our boundaries and how we present ourselves to the world. In this context, it can signify a fear of being exposed or vulnerable in a way that leaves you feeling powerless. The fact that you felt shame and rage points to a conflict within you; while the dream may be expressing feelings of victimization, it also emphasizes an emotional response that suggests you are struggling with feelings of self-worth and the impact of past experiences. Your shaking indicates a visceral reaction to trauma, which may echo real-life anxiety or fear regarding intimacy and trust in relationships.
The dream also highlights the emotional aftermath of the assault, as you describe feelings of shame and rage.